"Do that which is right and good in the eyesight of God." Deuteronomy 6:18
I recently sent out an email to a few friends in response to a comment that I heard. The comment was, "You should not allow your personal life to effect your marriage." I received several different responses. After pondering the statement and having a series of events happen to me over the course of the week, it made me take a different approach to my overall thinking. It reflects the verse above. Whatever it is: a confrontation with another individual, a mistake you made, your marriage, your parenting, your job, an uncomfortable situation....you get the picture. WHATEVER it is, we have to do that which is right AND good in the eyesight of God. How do we know what is good and right? By reading his word and being convicted in our spirit.
Our doing consist of our actions, our thinking and our feelings. Even if you don't show your emotions in the outer man, you cannot think evil things in your inner man. Even though others may not see it God sees it. You may be able to suppress those bad thoughts and feelings for a while, but eventually they will show themselves. You may start off thinking dirty words about a person, but eventually you will say them. Our heart has to completely change. Once our heart changes, our responses will change to any and every situation. Our responses will be those of God and will never be questioned. They will never make you feel bad. There will be nothing to repent for because you did it right on the front end.
Back to the whole personal life in your marriage situation. I received great responses. I was so perplexed by it even after getting your input. God immediately dropped in my spirit that it was all about semantics. We can twist and turn the words any way you want it, at the end of the day EVERYTHING we do has to be pleasing in the eyesight of God.
Peace and Love.